Me 14 months on, affair confirmed, someone new?

[TryingToDo180]

I agree with you 2old When someone actually listens to what you've got to say and acknowledges it you think "crikey! they're actually listening to what I'm saying!". It's definitely a wake up call, in a good way

[hotwheelsaust]

The friendship is certainly moving in the right direction or in a nice direction. Using a lot of DB techniques, but rather than feel I have to use the techniques, it simply feels a normal part of me. Have had some very open discussions about our pasts, rather than hiding or ignoring them.

Now what do I do for a Chrissie present?

[BrightFuture]

Now what do I do for a Chrissie present?

I love it! It is so Aussie! Are you asking about the present for this lady? I would think it is a bit too soon for the presents. Maybe take her to some nice restaurant?

I’m glad I stopped by your thread. You game me some inspiration. I keep waiting for my moment when I would not care about my H anymore. I can feel it is getting closer. I think I would be open to meet somebody new right now, if the chance presents itself.

[TryingToDo180]

It will present itself BF, even if you don't go looking for it HWA, Why not buy her two tickets to a show or concert, as long as the other ticket is for you of course lol.

[hotwheelsaust]

BrightFuture, it is simply a combination of so many things. But when it happens, you can be calm, relaxed and comfortable about it. I didn't think it would ever happen, and yet here I am now looking at a new wonderful relationship. A relationship that I know what I need to do to make it better and stronger over time.
The Chrissie present is because things are going so well, I am ok with working slow, but it doesn't seem to be going that way. I am going to her Christmas Eve party, so thought it would be nice to drop something under the tree.
Nothing too personal, but for most women, the bath and smelly stuff is always good. I also know she likes giraffes, so maybe something silly with that theme.

[Fartiltre]

When I think back some months I start to believe that an alien have taken over my aussie friend - and I like it!

Reading you HWA, makes me happy!

(Go for something not expensive yet a little personal. I think the giraffe is a great idea. You could go to antique shops and see if you can find an old toy giraffe or a picture - something like that!)

[Fartiltre]

Oh, and by the way - if you are going to her Christmas party - you bring a present IMO.

[TryingToDo180]

I agree with F, buy her a giraffe or something else not too grand though I still like the tickets in an envelope idea though It could even be a local theatre production, it doesn't have to be expensive.
DO NOT under any circumstances buy her bath and smelly stuff, it's such a tacky present. It's as if you've said to her, I've put no thought into this present at all! Everyone buys women smellies, I should know I've got a drawer full, lol. Not only that I've got sensitive skin so I've got to be careful what I put on my skin. A lot of my toiletries end up as raffle prizes I've think I've made my point hehe

[hotwheelsaust]

Thanks TTD180 and F. Ok no tacky smelly stuff presents. I do like the idea of an antique giraffe. Tickets.....mmmmmm. We are going to Gold Class cinema's next week (the real comfy seats that recline and you can get served food and drinks) to see Anchorman 2.
It is so cool, we have actually had a talk about the 5 love languages. So her love language is: quality time (major), words of affirmation and physical touch (minors).
And yes F, there is a new alien down under, but this one is in a happy place and actually is sensible and using commonsense.

[Fartiltre]

I like that alien a lot! Wish I could meet him someday!
Do enjoy the Christmas, your new place and life, the new friendly "friend" - it all! Suck it in while you never ever forget the trip you have been through for the last 14 months.
I am truly happy for you!

Now go get that giraffe!