She was the distancer your entire marriage because YOU were the pursuer. Now its time to reverse the roles and that is the main concept behind DBing and sandis 37 rules.....


You distance to create space between in the hopes that she will move to fill that space. The more space you put between you the better!

Listen to sandi. She knows what's up.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017