She doesn't work. We have separate accounts and I used to add money to hers.

That was her text word for word. No amount asked for.

My in laws know the situation and do not agree with her or like what she's doing/deciding. How would they feel? Idk.
I suspect they would or are supporting her but I'm not sure. Like I said they do not like what she's doing.

It's not about punishing her. But look at what she's doing/done.