Couple of questions, does she work, is any of the money she wants from the account(s) money that she helps put in? Did she say how much money she wants? Do her parents, your bosses, know about whats going on, and how would they feel if you gave them or held back money to their daughter? Get my drift?
I just don't have enough information about your sitch to really offer any advice one way or the other. What are you going to do, and why are you going to do it? Remember this isn't about punishing your wife if you choose not to send the money, but you better have a legitimate reason if your leaning that direction.
