Hoping for Reconciliation after being Separated...

[chasingpavements]

I remember feeling the say way as you when I separated. I just felt it was easier to tell people, rather than making up some excuse. Just be careful though. You may not want to tell too many people, that way you are leaving the door open for reconciliation. It makes it a lot easier if things were to change down the road.

I find I still have all sorts of feelings wash over me from day to day, my emotions are all over the place. I used to find it hard to sleep as well, as I would constantly think about him and analyze everything. It got easier for me as time went on. It's a strange feeling after you have been used to being with someone for so long.

I was the pursuer as well. With DB'ing the first thing they tell you is to stop the chase and pursuing. Hard for people like us that want to be in control and initiate things. For now it's best to just take the back seat for a while. Your friend is probably right, just give your wife the space for now. It doesn't mean that things won't ever change in the future, but right now it's for the best.