Oh Bright, I feel your pain, really I do. I'm so sorry your family is coming at you too, that makes it more difficult in an already difficult situation.

It really is traumatic, as job said. Having flashbacks, panicking, cycling. Ugh.

this quote from you:
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He always had female friends and I was OK with that as long as it was not a secret from me. I realize now that for some reason he wanted to have women friends, and most of them were single. When I look at his behavior now, I see a teenager trying to be at the center of a party and get attention from as many females as possible. Is he trying to validate or assert himself?


gave me a true flashback as to how my H had been previous years before BD!! Wow. I was once at a party, where I came up to him and another guy and two girls and my h said to me 'I'm just being his wingman!' like it was ok, and I was not his wife. He has always wanted female friends too. And the first one years ago that gave him any attention he glommed on to like a moth to a flame. Now he is trying to prove that to himself again, with a person he has a 'mutual interest' with...seriously dude, you're married...

I hope you can come up with something to say to your family that will let them know you are doing what you need and want to do at this time. Please do that so you won't have the added stress, they will understand if you let them know.

Be strong Bright and be good to you.

Me:49 H:47
S: 16
T:27 M:25
My EA: 2001
His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013
Separated, but H still in house

Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.