WR, I would be so sorely tempted to say that you aren't the messenger and the he needs to speak to the boys about their lists.
Ask God for some strength and patience here. The man needs help and I don't know which type of help he needs, i.e., be it memory and the brain or some broken buttons on the phone.
Yes, the man is miserable...
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Job, I agree BUT the problem is he IS talking to the boys AND me about gifts, and sizes, and everything. I don't know if he honestly cannot do this for himself or if he misses us it's any excuse to talk to us.......either way it is making me nuts!
I understand they get battier at Christmas time but how many conversations can one man have about presents? It seems over the top even for an mlcer, no?
I pray every night and I guess this is God answering my prayers.....I asked for patience and He sent me a difficult situation......
OH and S14 clarified with H about Christmas. Turns out they are going to SIL2's house (which made S14 breath a sigh of relief) and H is going to SIL1's house for Christmas day.
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WR, That is just plain crazy. Maybe he's hoping you'll volunteer to get the gifts. I wouldn't do it for him...but it sounds like he is one mixed up mess about the lists. He may be calling you right up until Christmas Eve about gifts. Poor man.
God doesn't give us any more than we can handle. Dig deeper for more patience. The Christmas will be here so and then on to the new year.
I'm glad your son got clarification about which house he's going to and when.
Enjoy the weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I think he wants me to go halfers on the gift......I'm shopped out so he'll need to figure it out.
Digging deep.....
He seems happier about it now so I'm glad it was figured out.
Here's another question. I've bought too many poinsettias for an order.....should I do one up for sil #2 from the boys as a hostess gift?
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
I think it would be very nice to do one up for SIL #2 as a hostess gift. She would like that. However, are the boys going over the SIL 1 on Christmas Day? If so, you'll need to do a second one. I know, I'm trying to play fair here...but you don't need any more drama than what you are already dealing with.
WR, you have a very kind heart and are really trying to do right by your boys. I'm only sorry that your h and his family can't see the light.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
No, H is going alone on Christmas day to SIL #2 The boys are with me the rest of the holidays.....I'm guessing that all the SIL's and the MIL will be there but it's a hostess gift so I'm thinking I'll send it for SIL #2 alone. Guide the boys to say something along the lines of "Thank you for inviting us" and keep it at that.
Thank you for your kind words Job. I'm trying to show the boys to rise above the situation and when invited to someone's home you never show empty handed (it's the italian in me I guess). I can be better than their treatment.....and so can my boys.
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
WR, You are number one in my books w/your children. I agree w/T2, 1,000 likes and more for the way you are showing your children how to treat people.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
