WR, I would be so sorely tempted to say that you aren't the messenger and the he needs to speak to the boys about their lists.
Ask God for some strength and patience here. The man needs help and I don't know which type of help he needs, i.e., be it memory and the brain or some broken buttons on the phone.
Yes, the man is miserable...
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
