Ambiv, I like how job phrased the response. I would not even put “at this time” at the end of the sentence “I have to accept that these are your decisions at this time.” I think it implies that you will be waiting for him to change his decision. We know on this board that MLCers can change their decisions multiple times, but to him this is final at this moment.
I also agree about asking questions vs. telling him what you need him to do. More you push and demand, more he is going to resist. By asking questions you put the ball in his court. You can always change your strategy if this doesn’t work.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state