Oh the drama So I mentioned that we're going to ICE! next week. W really enjoyed it last year, she was the one that set it up. I have the kids all next week and am also on vacation while W only gets Christmas eve and Christmas day off, so she is not going to get to see the kids except when she comes over to my house on Christmas day. So I thought I'd invite her to ICE! so that she'd get to participate in something fun with the kids. The kids also asked me if she was going when we were talking about it, so I told them I would invite her. She replied back "no, but thanks for the offer" which is totally fine by me, it frees us up to go during the day when it's not as busy. I texted the girls and told them W wasn't going and that we could go whenever we wanted, and to figure out when they want to go.
Then last night D17 comes by the house and tells me she's mad at W. She said W had scheduled them to go to some kind of concert, but D19's college roommate wanted to go so W wanted D17 to give up her ticket. D17 said "I thought you had an extra ticket, what happened to that?" W just looked at her, and D17 said "what, OM is going??? Why does OM have to go to EVERYTHING? And what's up with ICE? Why aren't you going?" No response from W. "You're not going because dad is going, is that it?" W- "yes". D17- "It's not like it's a date or something, he invited you so we could do something as a FAMILY! Do you remember your FAMILY?" Ouch. I tried explaining to D17 that we're really not a family anymore and that W doesn't see us as a family either, and I also tried explaining to her that I didn't invite W for that reason, but just so she could spend some time with them.
After D17 left I called W and told her that I had talked to D17 and she told me about the blowup, that I knew she wasn't going to get to spend any time with the kids next week and so I invited her along for that reason and not to be a "family". I told her I explained that to D17 as well. I told her that personally I don't care what she does with OM, but that the kids care a LOT about her activities with him and they resent it a LOT. I said they talk about that to me a lot and she replied "really?" Like she was genuinely surprised. I told her that I'm not telling her what to do, but that she should consider the kids and their feelings.
So there it is, 18 months post-BD and W refuses an invitation to something with the kids just because mean ol' AS will be there, LOL!
Last night W was running late once again, wasn't able to pick up S11 until 8:00. He told me he didn't want to go with her. I told him that was fine, but he needed to call W. He called her and she tried to talk him into going to her house and I overheard him say "but all you do is sleep all weekend, you don't do anything with me at all." I'm not sure I've mentioned that, but ever since W's menopause started she sleeps until anywhere between noon and 2 pm every Saturday and Sunday. Both W and the kids have told me this. The girls tend to sleep in too, but S12 gets up no later than 9:00 usually, so he's the only one awake over there for hours. Anyway, W finally gave up and told him to stay here.
S11 and I finished his minibike last night! He was so excited he made me go out at 10:30 on a super-cold night just to get gas for it We started it up and he took it for a short circuit around the drive before putting it away because it was sprinkling and he didn't want it to get wet. He then sent a text to W and the girls telling them it was done, then sent a pic of it to them and told them he had named it "silverwind" (it's powder-coated silver). Then he warned them not to scratch the paint, ROTFLOL! Chip off the ol' block
So I mentioned that we're going to ICE! next week. W really enjoyed it last year, she was the one that set it up. I have the kids all next week and am also on vacation while W only gets Christmas eve and Christmas day off, so she is not going to get to see the kids except when she comes over to my house on Christmas day. So I thought I'd invite her to ICE! so that she'd get to participate in something fun with the kids. The kids also asked me if she was going when we were talking about it, so I told them I would invite her. She replied back "no, but thanks for the offer" which is totally fine by me, it frees us up to go during the day when it's not as busy. I texted the girls and told them W wasn't going and that we could go whenever we wanted, and to figure out when they want to go.
We started it up and he took it for a short circuit around the drive before putting it away because it was sprinkling and he didn't want it to get wet. He then sent a text to W and the girls telling them it was done, then sent a pic of it to them and told them he had named it "silverwind" (it's powder-coated silver). Then he warned them not to scratch the paint, ROTFLOL! Chip off the ol' block 
