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[chasingpavements]

Do you remember what you said when you brought the subject up?

I said to him, I would like to talk to you about something. I am feeling sad that you have been less affectionate lately than you were when we first got together. That he was so affectionate at first and it made me feel so loved. That I was amazed at what it felt like, that our marriage could feel that way, but then things changed and it went away for some reason. And then I asked if he knows why that could be. And he said that sometimes things feel awkward. I asked him why and he didn't have an answer, he doesnt know why. I told him that it felt like he was affectionate mostly when he wanted to make love and it didn't feel fair. He agreed it wasn't fair.

He said he has brought the issue up to the counselor and she thought perhaps he was doing it to punish me. He told me that we wasn't doing it on purpose. He said he would like to address it at counseling instead of talking about it.

Have you read the book How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It?

I actually own the book and I will start reading it, it seems like it will be really helpful at this point for me and H.

thanks again labug!

-cp