S20+364 days and saw Anchorman 2 yesterday (very funny in the goofy Will Ferrell style) and then had some great Mexican food after. One of the lines in the movie is Ron Burgandy says he was born in Oaxaca so it was a theme night.:)

Going to the movie and dinner was an early BD present from me.

S20 and I have had some serious problems over the time that H was on his walkabout (thanks, RT). There was a point in time when we were barely speaking, now we enjoy each other's company, have fun and respect each other.

That has only happened because I was able to stop trying to control him and show that I respected him. I might not always agree with him or his choices but his life, is his life.

When H left I was so out of control. I had lost my H and my marriage, my mother had died one year before and S24 left to attend school during the summer. I can remember saying to my IC on several occasions, "I can't loose anyone else!" So I had S20 in a vice grip.

It wasn't healthy and it's so easy to see now in retrospect. Thanks to my IC and the good folks here, I turned that around and we now we have a R that works for both of us.

Maybe I'll make a point of he and I getting together on the 20th for our own celebration.

Love that kid.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss