So, it comes down to this and as Accuray says (BTW, have you explored the old posts? you can glean lots of good info in reading old posts)"This isn't easy but it's simple."

If you want this marriage, you work on you and continue to show that your changes are real. You have true empathy for her.

Every day.

Actions speak louder than words.

About her communications with the other man, again, only you can decide. If you can't get past it, you can't get past it. I understand that.

If you talked with her about the ?OM, what would you say?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss