DIG DEEP DIG ON

[Ambivalent]

This is what I'm considering:

I hear what you are saying, there are other choices and options but I accept the choices you've made.

I'm thinking of changing but to yet

I disagree.

Please do not default on the mortgage,. If it is behind please rectify and keep it current.

I still believe this must be stated and is a boundary

Your choice to do this at this time of year is your choice alone.

Truth dart

Please place my name on any Christmas gifts, for you had previously told me there were no funds to do so, now you have come to a different opinion.

Believe gifts should be from us at this time. Especially since he has placed me in a pickle.

You are still welcome to join us.

Unsure about this, and am trying to DB but don't know if this comes across as pursuing. I do NOT want that at all. How do I leave the door ajar, or what ways may I. ?
A.

My reasoning: I am acknowledging, validating, and disagree.

I am stating my disagreement over some decisions on the house and mortgage, and want it in writing that he may be in non compliance of the loan, and that I disagree and I want it current.

Acknowledging his choice about the timing of the letter and that he owns his behavior.


Showing an inconsistency about finances and how he changed his mind. I am part of the gift giving process.

Leaving an open door.

I'm sitting on it , to think about it.