Thank you TTD180. Yes we do have feelings that get awakened by these new people. Feelings that we haven't had shared with us since BD, and before for some people. It doesn't have to be, as you said, the lustful ones. But just to have someone who wants to hold you, talk to you more intimately than just a friend. Someone to hold hands with and share talks about the future (doesn't have to be marriage talks either). But what is really good, is the knowledge I have gained in the last 14 months, from coaches, fellow forum members and the books. These have all helped in me feeling comfortable about my choices. These choices are now for me, not for how the W may view me, or to win her back etc. It's about me now.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
