F, I am too tired to analyze that whole convo, but did want to say you might want to think some more about adding the condition that you have to be in a place you like in the R. Think about how that would come across if the roles were reversed. Also, we have seen how she reacts to you telling her you have "demands."
Just my $.02, but I feel like you should decide yes or no, or an alternative arrangement (as in you all go together, for example), but if you can't say yes without a bunch of conditions/demands, maybe just say no. But make sure you are saying no for your own reasons and not to punish her.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
