A similar thing, which I hesitate to call an EA, happened with W about 7 years ago. And 9 years ago she met up with an old BF without my pre-knowledge, and feelings were expressed. He did not reciprocate.
How did you deal with each time? Did you confront her? Was it swept under the rug, instead of working on the issues that caused her to reach out to these men?
In the first instance, she told me that evening and seemed remorseful. I don't think we worked on the issues or dealt effectively with it. With the second instance, she attended IC and I came with her maybe 3-4 times but the C felt the issues were mostly with W and focused on some painful childhood stuff. We then began weekly date nights, evening couch time to talk, and random acts of kindness toward one another.
We never abandoned the date nights since seven years ago, but I think when kids came the couch time and random acts were often neglected.
_________________________ Me: 37 W: 37 M: 11 D:5 S:2 IDLYA, W removed rings, BD 07/13 EA/Fantasy (PA?) confirmed 12/13 W moved out 05/14
