Congrats on the test RH. It must feel good to have your persistence pay off.
As for the Christmas thing... it seems like this is a good time to assert the "working on us" part of your signature. Did H already make it clear that the Santa plan is a HIM ONLY thing?
Is there a way you can find a compromise that makes you both reasonably happy? Maybe something like Christmas morning with the family and a big brunch at home, then you get in the car around noon to drive to the friends' TOGETHER. Make your appearances, home by 5pm or so to eat a crockpot dinner and unwind? I think it is fair to tell your H that it is important to you this year that you spend Christmas TOGETHER, but that you are willing to make some concessions for what he wants too.
I think you can be clear that you are open to the idea, you just don't want it to be an "all day and half the night" kind of deal... that you had your heart set on spending the end of a busy Holiday curled up with him by the fire drinking hot toddies and smooching and building up to something "naughty" later on.
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."
