Hey friends, I just wanted to write a few things because of something I have noticed.
Dbing is a kind of roadmap for how to live your life.
Approaching difficult things with a beginners mind, not going down cheeseless tunnels, do what works, etc.
To me, it is about saving yourself and sometimes it saves marriages.
It does not mean that you sit around and take being treated disrespectfully. It doesnt mean that the MLCer is not ultimately responsible for their actions.
It means that you look within and figure out what needs changing. It means that you set about changing those things. It means you give your spouse time and space to work out their stuff as a way to honor your marriage.
It means you become your best self. You get yourself strong.
If there is an OP, you realize they are not worthy of any credence or any of your headspace.
It should not mean that you are putting your life on hold. It should not stop you from moving forward and living your life. It isnt about holding on at the expense of you.
When you are ready, you make decisions from a place of strength, not fear. You make them based on how you want to live your life. And that may or may not include your spouse. Your choice always.
It is not about looking at them and wondering what they are thinking or feeling. That isnt possible.
Take back your power.
Do what you need to do for you and your children. That's where your focus needs to be.
Trying to figure them out is a waste of your time and energy. They are in crazytown, population them. Use that energy on you.
There is nothing you can do to hurry this along. Worrying has on affect on the outcome.
Their journey is theirs. Your journey is yours.
You cant do anything about how they walk theirs, but, you sure can do something about how you walk yours.
