Look what the cat dragged in! (TL) - Act 2

[tigerlily78]

Update:

Rough day yesterday. I was kind of a b*tch. Sent him some messages and notes. Did get some roundabout confirmation of his opinion on some things. Like that he DID love me. That he DID like spending time with me. That he DID like spending time with son. That he does not want son and I to move out of the house (I mentioned it seemed like maybe his controlling techniques were meant to pressure me into moving away so then he could have the house to himself). That he feels like he DID work on the relationship, (I pointed out that I do now recognize some of the efforts he made, but I have learned enough now to understand why those efforts didn't really work... namely that he was doing it onesided, without actually communicating the problem to me and us constructively thinking about solutions together). That he did not spend our entire R together looking for an opportunity to get out of it. he really does feel that what happened was a fluke that he did not forsee. (I did point out he made a series of decisions leading up to the BD that put him in a position for the "fluke" to occur... that consciously or subconsciously he was pushing a boundary with his decisions and should have probably realized what "might" happen given the opportunity.)

I did get to go grocery shopping and to buy pet food with one of his cards. He even told me the pin number for it, which I didn't previously know. He didn't pre-approve the list.

Also noticed that since the other day when I saw a travel mug in the car with OW's lipstick stain on the spout and pointed out that was "evidence" as we agreed should not be brought into the home or left around in the car... he has been taking a mug from home to use. I appreciate that change.

Today was dim. Letting him just absorb what was said yesterday. After accusing me yesterday of "trying to force him out of his den" ... he worked from home this morning and then spent the afternoon playing games on his computer. Based on the kinds of things he is hooting and cheering, I think it is a game he had previously "given up" so he had more time for the OW situation... probably a game he had used as escape/diversion before he entered replay and got a shiny new OW.

So, I dunno. Maybe reversion back to the game means other replay activities are losing their appeal. He has suddenly been skating less too this past week or two. Might not mean anything, just that he is bored.

I do like the game much better than the OW, if I had to choose one. :P