Just a point - although it is a sticky sitch. Just keep in perspective that your H is at least trying to keep focus on the kids. Not a lot of WAS's seem to do this. Maybe this can be one of your appreciation points. He maybe a total selfish turd right now but he is still trying to keep the kids at the forefront. Yes cake eating but I've seen the situation of H's leaving not only M behind but kids aswell and never looking back. Be thankful you at least have a full hand of cards to play with. I too am in a similar sitch and any bit of positive I find I cling onto for dear life! things could be worse. I will keep in contact as MrBond and Starsky seem to have some good advice. It is hard when you were the one not giving effection (unknowingly the wrong type)- 180 of this and LRT are often hard. Once he is out you won't believe how much easier it is to GAL :-) good luck.
_____________________________________________________ Me 32 H 32 D 6 S 4 S 11mth
Never allow kindness be misinterpreted for weakness. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
