Look what the cat dragged in! (TL) - Act 2

[tigerlily78]

I think I was an employee (it's been a while) if you work more than 29 hours. They were trying to get benefits, etc.

Thanks, I am going to do the application for them tonight.

BF: I don't qualify for spousal support, we are not actually married, no common law recognition either.

Kate: I don't think I am waiting for the sky to fall. I think I am starting with the easiest things on the list and going from there. A job is number one for me right now. And my child support would end up being less the the mortgage payments on the house. In my case letting H pay for the house instead of better, and in a sense I think the "I'll pay for the house" is maybe even a bit of a "tell" on his part... that he doesn't really see himself moving out, that he wants/needs the security of this place to come home to when his "OW thing" ends.

Maybe I am putting too much faith in the strength of H's desire NOT to send his son away to live in a different state, which is likely what would happen if he didn't pay to keep us in this home. Really, if H stops paying the mortgage down the road, then I will STILL have the option to move. I am not going to uproot my son preemptively to make a point. H has been very clear that he does not want son and I to move out. I also broached the subject that he might prefer it if I moved and son stayed here with him, but that I didn't see H willing to step up and be the primary caregiver to son and I didn't forsee son choosing to stay with him if given the option. H simply stated again that he does not want or expect me to move out of this home.