Let's formalize the "secret crush" thing and kiss under the mistletoe! [pssst...don't tell anyone]
My plans are to see my hot girl, Cass, at this weekend's holiday party and then rest of the holidays with my family. Gorge on food, play Euchre, and watch DVD movies. Sweet!
Job and Whiterose, thank you so much for your words of support. It really does help.
RH: It sounds like you guys have some fun times planned for the holidays! Good for you, you truly deserve it. It looks like I need to get one of those “Naughty” notes from you for my Secret Mistletoe Girl above. I hope she knows Santa keeps track of all this stuff!
W and I will spend Christmas eve evening at my parent’s home, with one brother, (the other is out of state) both sisters, their spouses and their kids. Eat, play games, joke around, hug. Christmas day will be with W’s dad, her brother and his fiancé, and we will exchange gifts.
I bought W a cute jogging outfit, as she’s started back up in our home gym. Yay!
Also got her two tickets to see Lady Antebellum, as she’s been listening to country music lately. I wanted to get her tickets to see George Strait, but his March show was already sold out!
These tickets are for her to take whoever she wants. Last year I gave her Andrea Bocelli tickets and she took an old friend who really needed a night out. They both were very appreciative. Bust On!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Christmas eve with my family was a blast. Plenty of food, laughs, and Jingo. (Christmas Bingo, with prizes) I devised a new game this year and it was a big hit. Everyone had to make a Christmas drawing in private, and then everyone had to guess who drew each picture! The winner is the one who guessed the most right.
Christmas day we visited W's dad, along with her brother and his fiance. Plenty of food, laughs, and gifts. Even a couple of shots and few dirty jokes!
One thing I've noticed is that no matter where we are in our sitch, we always want more. W and I didn't get around to exchanging our gifts until tonight, and for some stupid reason, I let it bother me yesterday.
"Everything else (even the dishes) is more important than our gifts to each other"
It seems awfully silly of me now, especially when I realize how fortunate I truly am. How fortunate we all are.
At some point, we're only going to be as happy as we decide to be.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Sounds like you had a good Christmas Eve and day. I like your idea with the new Christmas game!
I was thinking about this...
"One thing I've noticed is that no matter where we are in our sitch, we always want more."
I think this is very true.
Maybe because as time goes on and life happens, WE change. We aren't the same people we were at the time of bomb. So while we may have been happy with one thing at a certain point of time in our sitch, we now think differently, see things differently. I think that's a good thing.
"At some point, we're only going to be as happy as we decide to be."
Absolutely!
Wishing you all the best in 2014!
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Thanks TVS. Yes, we did have a nice Christmas with our families. And W is still here, and I believe doing the best she can. I can't quit now.
But I still struggle for periods every week. Will she ever recommit to being my lover? Will it take longer than I'm willing to wait?
I do miss the closeness we had, which has been gone now for 2 years.
I had a nice night out with friends tonight. Lots of laughing.
Oh, and earlier today W asked if I wanted to join her at a birthday party for one of her girl friend / coworkers next Saturday. Surprised the heck out of me... I thought I was cooties!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
FY, I'm glad to read that you and your family had a nice Christmas. Yes, your w is doing the best she can and she'll continue to make progress in 2014. I know it gets frustrating at times, but her crisis didn't happen in a blink of the eye and it will take just as long to recover from it.
It's good that you are getting out and having some fun time on your own. It helps to rebuild your PMA and keep you going when things are a bit tough in your home environment. It's a good way to relieve the stress and tension.
Well, that was a surprise! Inviting you to a birthday party next weekend. I would go. No, my man, you aren't cooties. You've come a long way since that time. Go and have some fun! This may be the beginning of her heart melting and I don't want to see you lose out on that beginning.
Happy New Year!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
It's good that you are getting out and having some fun time on your own. It helps to rebuild your PMA and keep you going when things are a bit tough in your home environment. It's a good way to relieve the stress and tension.
Yeah, we had a small group out watching the UFC fights. Seen Silva snap his leg when kicking Weidman. Good times. lol
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Well, that was a surprise! Inviting you to a birthday party next weekend. I would go. No, my man, you aren't cooties. You've come a long way since that time. Go and have some fun! This may be the beginning of her heart melting and I don't want to see you lose out on that beginning.
I did tell W later in the day that I was looking forward to going. It will be a large party, maybe 30-40 people. I was actually at this couples house for a party several years ago, (pre-crises) so kinda know them.
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My next ed2go class starts early in Jan. "Assisting aging parents"
It's a six week course. Some of the topics include:
Communication techniques Helping your parent(s) maintain their zest for life Dealing with material possessions Setting up medical and funeral wishes Estate details Emotions: what to expect and how to deal with them Home care options and decisions Death
My parents and W's Dad are still caring for themselves in their own homes, but are in their mid to upper 70's and won't be able to do it forever. Better to prepare and have things in place ahead of time to smooth what likely will be a very challenging period. If you google ed2go and Assisting aging parents, you can view the course syllabus and even the entire first lesson. Valuable information for those of us with parents in their golden years, I'd say.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
New Years eve W and I both had plans to go out separately for the night. Then when the snow hit we both decided to stay in. I suggested we watch "OZ, The Great and Powerful" so we did. I made popcorn. (with real butter)
W didn't get into the movie as much as I did, but hey, she was there. At one point I brushed her hair for a bit, and she even did mine! At midnight we high fived. Maybe next year we can undress each other.
I hope you all had a good New Years day. Even if it stunk, tell me about it.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
