Funny, I used to think the trigger was that her nephew omitted suicide. But being honest and looking back, it was before that when things started. She was back in school and under a ton of stress. The nephew didn't help, and it was a month after that.
I have had the sense for a long time that it was more about the timing. Her issues started about the same time my daughter turned 11-12. That was about the same time things got wonky in her own life at home. When her brother went into the drugs/jail cycle, her grandfather with alz came to live with them, and her mom was full swing into her career without much time for her kids.
My guess has always been the similar to what the counselor brought up early on - she doesn't have the tools to deal with what she's dealing with and she's not doing a good job making them. The counselor was also quick to point out that W was going to go through this now or 10 years from now. That it was not likely related to the nephew.
After all this time, I tend to agree that it may have helped push her over the edge, it was more of an excuse to no longer hold it back than it was the trigger. It did mix some things up in her head though... If that's possible
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
