I keep thinking of giving my W a compliment. We don't talk much now that we are separate and I keep thinking of the same thing today but have not acted on it. I didn't really tell her how proud I am of her, but I guess at this stage, I'll have to wait until she contacts me to bring it up...? agree?
If she fits the mold of all the WAW's I've read about and known, she doesn't want to hear any compliments from her LBH. My H tried it with me and it completely turned my stomach! I realize you probably don't understand why. A WAW is like a different animal that you cannot compare with any other. You sure can't compare her to the way she "used to be". She's not that girl any longer. She doesn't like you, and worse, she's turned off by you. The best thing you could do would be to stay out of sight & sound as much as possible. The more you stay out of contact now, the more chance you will have in the future.
Forget about kissing up with compliments...or anything else. It will backfire.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
