X's Aunt (they were close) passed about 1 year before BD, many comments about age, wrinkles, running out of time for someone to love her, and anger leading up to BD.

I also was not the best husband, I tried loving her in MY way not the way she wanted or needed. I thought I was communicating and have since learned better ways and realize I still need much more practice.


You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.