Stuck in the mud!

[Pudmuddle]

My opinion is...every situation really is different. I think if you have things you need to say then say them in the most db way possible. My H doesn't say much unless I bring it up too. I do it and then let it lie with him for a while so he can ponder. It is very hard to deal with that type of person. I know for me, I may have said to much in the past, controlled the convo, so it shut him down.

So it's totally up to you but be careful what you say and be prepared on what the outcome might be. And the usual, have no expectations from it. It might make you feel better in the short term.