"She must have been considering this D for years. How does someone let themselves get to a point that a D is the only answer, the only hope? Why the heck wouldn't you seek counseling, talk to a friend, your brother/sister, scream, yell, kick."

ScottCat: Wow. Exactly same situation (except my walkaway was the husband). My sympathies. Good luck with the holidays.

M 20 yrs
me 47
H 51
s11
d8

BD 10/8/13
H Moved out 11/30/13
OW slept over with children Dec '13
OW moved in w/H Jan '14