...I have been feeling angry/upset/frustrated etc, toward the WAS during the past couple days. Frustrated about the fact the WAS held in her true feelings for sooo long. She must have been considering this D for years. How does someone let themselves get to a point that a D is the only answer, the only hope? Why the heck wouldn't you seek counseling, talk to a friend, your brother/sister, scream, yell, kick. My W didn't and she admitted it.
I completely admit that our marriage was not the greatest. I would have even told you our marriage was so-so before I knew she wanted a D. We had a "roommate" with occasional benefit type marriage. We were good friends and good teammates too. But, neither of us put much focus on our marriage, we focused on the kids, activities, events and everything else that life throws at you.
Im not sticking up for myself here. I know I was wrong and my actions/choices were horrible. I admit that, and now realize how foolish I was. I admit my WAS told me several times that we need help BADLY and we really need to get counseling. I never knew just how badly she meant. I would guess that she was already considering D when she was telling me that. SO why the hell wouldn't you say that to your spouse, why wouldn't you be honest about your true feeling. Maybe write a heart felt note, have a family member talk to you, intervention, I dont know something different to get your attention.
Like I've said before, "I've had my wake up call, and part of me wants to thank my WAS for opening my eye's to the way I was truly living."
I guess we have different perspective from this side of the fence, huh?
Me: 39 W: 33 M: 9 years T: 10 years S7 S10 BD 10/19/13 W Filed 11/25/13 EA Confirmed 2/2/14 (no evidence of PA) WAW moved out 3/15/14
