"Now what? It's not a control issue. She's having an affair. Doesn't seem to care about anything but that."
You don't seem to understand. It's not about her wanting an A. It's about her wanting to be HAPPY. You said you weren't the greatest H, so now she's trying to be happy.
You are trying to control her and the situation and that's what's driving you crazy.
"I'm not trying to get her to see my pain."
Yes you are. That's why you send those emails that make YOU feel better.
"People on this forum and elsewhere have suggested filing."
Personally I don't think this would work because she hasn't had any reason to want to go back to you. I mean, what would make you such a catch that she would like to go back to you?
"Worry she may rack up debt because she's "super broke"?"
You would be trying to control her again by punishing her. I'm not saying that she shouldn't be held accountable, but the way you're approaching it is like you would be punishing her. And isn't that how you treated her before?
What can you do to make things different?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
