It is really a difficult position to be placed in, because you WANT to help them, especially if it's family. And not helping them may mean they're placed into an even worse situation. But at the same time, people often have to hit rock bottom before they wake up and get their sh... er, "stuff" together. I've been that person (too many times) that helped someone that was in "desperate" need (losing house or apartment) only to discover them using the money to buy cigarettes, booze or to get a manicure. You think I'm kidding? Nooooo. I've also seen it work the other way where those people "in need" were refused help everywhere they turned and finally looked in the mirror and realized THAT is the only person that can truly get them unstuck. It's kind of like DB'ing in that respect, DB'ing is all about working on ourselves because we're broken and in the end no one else can fix us.
So I'm totally sympathetic having been there myself, but I've also been the hand that feeds that's been bitten more times than I care to recount, LOL! So that's my perspective for what it's worth
