H's closest grandparent died in 2005, after long battle with cancer

H lost his job of 13+ years in 2008.

We lost our "new" house in 2009, due to financial strain
Moved back into "old" house that we'd been renting out.

H didn't find a job until 2011. Had LOTS of financial issues.

Got foreclosed on our "old" house that we'd moved back into - 2012

H has huge falling out with my family, threatens to shoot my dad if he ever comes to our house again. 2012

I find out about OW in Fall 2012

Seems like my H's MLC stems more from him losing his job....and the issues that happened after.