I can understand why you feel confused, everything is turned upside down, your emotions are high and you’re getting a variety of advice.
I never had a chance to talk to a DB coach, but would recommend listening carefully to them. The advice you get on these boards is more of a support, we do try to help based on experience and common similarities.
One thing I know for sure and that is you have to become the best person you can, for you. That will set the direction for positive things to happen.
You have to take everything people say and make your own choices, we just try to help you see what we have learned. I always relied on my gut if that helps.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy