Your ONLY job right now is to first protect yourself- then regain strength and confidence so that you can be an even MORE amazing woman. Again, you will be the person only an absolute fool would leave.
The BS with your SIL is noise...dont get dragged in! You know the truth.....show grace
One thing I learned HARD about a spouses infidelity- your gut knows the truth- Please do not dig to confirm..it will only hurt you. He will become sloppier and sloppier with hiding it. Trust me it becomes an embarrassing, almost funny, game after awhile.
From this point forward only do what YOU want to do. He wants to be single- let him be single. You are under no obligation to attend any social functions with him- and NO guilt! Going with him will not bring him back. There is nothing you can do to save this marriage in a healthy way right now. This is about the future.
I WANT TO GO TO PARIS NEXT
You ARE strong enough!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
