NEW LIFE / NEW ME - AIRBORNE II

[Fartiltre]

Had a short talk with W this morning and then she called this afternoon and asked if we could change some dates in march. I wasn’t in front of my computer so I told her that we would have to talk later but she started anyway.

She wants the Ds on a weekend were they are supposed to be with me. Last 4-5 years we have gone to a friend of W and watched a music competition show for children on TV. This has been some kind of tradition and W wants to continue this. This year she wants to visit the show with the Ds and see the tests live on Friday and then watch the real show on TV at her friend on Saturday. I have already been planning on doing something on this day but only in my head.

She stated: “I would like to have them on this date and then you can have them on your birthday instead.”

I told her that I had already planned on doing something with them and that at the moment I didn’t feel like doing this change of dates, but also that I would give it a thought. She started out by telling me that this show/tradition has meant nothing to me and that she didn’t understand, that she was really sad on behalf of the girls, and some few other things I can’t remember.

I told her something like “W, I will give it a thought and get back to you”

She tried to pressure me with deadline on buying the tickets, but I stood my ground and we hung up. I was calm, pleasant and with a soft-voice all the way through. She seemed a little annoyed or angry.

She texted me shortly after:

“Hey you. Well, that was a surprice. Have always seen [TV-show] as something I have had with the girls…! I can understand that you would also like to have this experience with them but then I will suggest that we share it. We could go and see the test together on Friday all of us and then you can have them on Saturday or I can have them Friday and then you can have them Saturday. No matter what I do hope that you will grant me this. It really means a lot to me.”

I haven’t answered the text but will have to call or stall her this evening.

I do not know how I feel about going there together. It’s a 2½ hour drive each way – that’s a long time and I do not know where we will be in March. Could be better – could be worse!

I do not feel like giving up on time Ds and S10 have together so if we go it will only be the five of us. I believe W is organizing this with her friend, but I don’t know for sure.

I do not believe that all “traditions” can be kept alive. S10 and Ds see each other Friday to Monday every second week. I am guarding this time. I cancel sports, birthdays and so, for the four of us to spend time together.

I think her trading my birthday for this is over the top, but I will prefer the children having their weekend over them attending my birthday. I will properly address this so she knows my stand on this.

Thoughts?