I've just got to share something while it's on my mind. I was eating dinner with my D's last night. W was taking S11 to bball practice. S11 was tired and whiny and didn't want to go, so what does W do? She dials my number and hands the phone to S11 and makes it MY responsibility to talk him into going (which I did). Then I hang up and mention to my D's that I don't understand why W is calling me for this, and they both said it's because he never listens to W.
I have that "daddy voice" that is stern but not angry, when the kids are acting up I can say a few words and it gets their attention quickly. Do they like it? No, because it takes them away from their video game or texting or sleeping and makes them do their homework or chore or wake up or whatever it is they're SUPPOSED to be doing.
After BD my W criticized me for it, saying "the kids don't like it when you talk to them that way." And yet, before BD if she couldn't get them to do something then it was "AS, can you tell S to go take a shower?" Or "AS, can you tell D to do her homework?" I would even say "why don't you ask them?" And she would say "because they never listen to me!"
So before BD it was a benefit, after BD it was me being bossy, controlling and maybe even "mean". And yet, even in S she's leaning on me for that. Hmmmm. Anyway, my point is that we don't always have to do 180's on every one of the WAS's gripes, because the WAS will even take beneficial qualities of the LBS's and make them sound negative.
S11 had a choir performance before his bball practice. Both D's went with me to watch it and W said she'd meet us there. It was a really, really cute Christmas performance, they had the stage set up as a 50's diner and some of the kids were dressed for it (S11 had his "Fonzie" leather jacket on). S11 had several speaking lines and executed them perfectly!
It was about a 30 minute program and W was 15 minutes late and missed ALL of S11's speaking lines (rolls eyes)
On another note- BRING ON THE VACATION!!!!! I'm at work for a few more hours, then not back until 01-02, woohoo! When D's and I ate last night we talked about things we could do on vacation, so far we're going to see the Hobbit, go to a drive-through Christmas light display (we've done this every couple of years since they were little) and go to the ICE! exhibit at the Gaylord Texan in Grapevine. Let's get the party started
