2boyzmom, your mum sounds very similar to mine. My mum said to me on the phone today how she is hurting as well because of how H hurt me. Yes he has hurt me, but unlike my mum I've let it go. Being a stalwart Christian, I will always forgive him as I know he's not himself at the mo. I just wish that my parents could see this as well, but not many seem to see the importance of MLC - they think it is just a big joke! Me and my son went out to do our big shop today. I've got a delivery coming later What we couldn't get in the store, we went to another one after lunchtime. It was pretty quiet which was good I've just got to get the veg and the turkey now which will be done next week I'm meeting my HM friend on Monday, let's hope she's cheered up again. I know I'm going to have to say something but what do I say? She really gets too much at times! I've already mentioned that I'm on my own this Christmas and I've had to do all the prepping myself. She just goes on about how she's not got a job and no money, etc etc. A real poor me attitude!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
More from my HM friend. She can't meet me on Monday as her H is off and she said he'll complain if she goes out when he wants to get ready for Christmas. She suggested tomorrow at 3pm, I said it's a bit late and couldn't she make it earlier. She said she doesn't know as they go to their MILs on Saturday and she'll text me when she's free. I texted her to say I'm going out tomorrow morning and I'm not staying out all day so if she's free in the morning to send me a text or we'll have to meet up after Christmas. She's not replied to this, I'm tempted to put "?????" lol. I'm going to start putting my foot down as she's taking the P
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Went to Church this morning, we sang this hymn that ends with the line "most highly favoured lady" but for some reason I kept singing "most highly flavoured lady" lol. It rolled off the tongue better hehe. H came in after the service for a coffee. He's taking our son out shopping today for my card and present and they're off to McDs for lunch, so I've got some alone time for a bit I asked him what he was doing on Christmas Day and he said he was going round to his mate's, but not until the afternoon. He said he's bought a small bottle of fizz for them to have a glass each. He said he'll have breakfast on his own. I believe him or he wouldn't be going into detail about what he's doing or maybe he had the story already prepared to tell me. It might be the breakfast he's telling fibs about. Whatever it is, I'm not that fussed anyway At least I know I don't have to cater for him as well and I don't have to buy bisto gravy and paxo, lol. He doesn't like homemade gravy and stuffing balls, but me and my son do He was very much the old H today, very strange. He is starting to reminisce about this phrase we used to say that came out of a book. We both couldn't remember it. He offered me a lift back home and then beeped his hoen as he drove off for me to turn around and wave. He also mentioned that he wanted to save up for a kindle. I thought to myself, I thought you wanted to save up for a divorce but I obviously didn't say anything. When he's like this I get confused on my feelings for him. I don't know if I still love him, I've got a lot of hurt to get over first, but I do still like him. I am starting to detach now and make a life for myself in case he doesn't come back. I find myself fantasising a lot about my latest wish list I don't mean fantasising as in bedroom antics, lol, just before you get any ideas Just thinking what it would be like if I was spending Christmas with him that's all
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Update again! My H came back to drop my son off. He came in for a coffee, a change from last week! He was full of compliments today about the room and how much brighter it looks now. He commented on how nice the christmas decs look and how I should put more tinsel round. I said I was going for the minimalist look and he said it looks nice. I showed him the board game I've got for my son and he said how great it was. He said it again when he left and I said that I'll send my son round on boxing day with it. He's told me all his plans that he's going to do with my son on Boxing day and said he'll be round at 10am. He asks if that was ok and when I ummed and aahed he said jokingly, "you better be up woman!" lol. I was thinking oh my H is back, but I'm sure this is short lived!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I know this 2old and I've no expectations whatsoever. He might be in monster mode after Christmas, but for now it's nice to have the nice H here for a change I'm sure he'll be ok on Boxing Day as well, but after Christmas well... We'll have to see won't we I'll just carry on fantasising about my wish list, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
What a nice breath of fresh air TTD! Enjoy those moments, they are so precious.
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
I agree CP Makes a change from the grumpy old man I've had to put up with lately, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
What we couldn't get in the store, we went to another one after lunchtime. It was pretty quiet which was good