It was the best of times it was the worst of times

[KdogGS]

I guess my mind is just going crazy- I was thinking on expanding on why I want to use numbers rather than emotions with something like this. I know it is really anti-DB but it seems like my train is headed for derailing regardless of what I do, so maybe getting it off my chest would at least help me. How badly would this go over? Love to hear from a WAS on this too.

"The reason I feel that numbers are objective and the best way to be fair during the division of property is that I too, like you am hurting. I know you were honest and blunt with me before, and I do need to be with you too as well.

You stated you felt deceived by me from Day 1, and previously stated multiple times that I did not adhere to our vows and thus shattered your dreams. I do not pretend to know exactly how you feel, but I am experiencing the same circumstances. We made vows of "in sickness and health, for better or worse, until death do us part" not until adversity do us part.

I admit that I did not adhere to my vow of forsaking all others, as I was having an emotional affair. Right now you are not living out your vows either. You told me repeatedly before we got married that "divorce is not in my vocabulary." The woman I married and intended to spend the rest of my life too has gone back on her vows as well. My dreams are also shattered at this point, like someone took a big eraser to my vision of my future. I am not saying I didn't give you lots of reasons to do so, but those are the facts as I see them. We both did not stay true to our vows for different reasons. I was in a deep depression and needed my wife, and she abandoned me emotionally.

This is why I think that the numbers are the best way to do this, we are both really hurting and emotional. I know that was blunt, but I needed to say it. I feel that during our relationship, we were both avoiders, which is why we never talked about issues and thus never fought at first."