Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

Sorry was on a phone last night very hard to post from those.

adinva, Thinking about what you said more. You are correct. That is a pattern I have had or we have had throughout our M. I am working hard to correct from my side. I now realize that it is the way I word things that sometime gets me into trouble. I honestly do not mean to attempt to mind read. It is really hard not to do. I need to slow down and choose how I present things to her. Also, it will be much easier to use my actions to speak for me now that we are under the same roof again. I can use this time to refill her love bank and learn what her love languages are. I thought I knew but I was wrong.

The other thing is I always wanted to talk things out but W could not or did not want to. It is there where I started making mistakes. I would take things too personal. I always wanted to fix things. I needed to learn that not all things can be fixed or actually don't even need fixed because they are not huge issues. I turned them into huge issues by trying so hard to fix them or keep the peace.

I feel I have made strides towards doing this and now that I am back home and she is still there it will be a good test for me. I just hope by moving back I didn't force her hand to where she thinks she needs to retain a L. I hope maybe since the emotions have calmed maybe she will just go with it for a while and if she is still deadset on the D then I can not stop that.