Sorting it All Out

[reachingHigher]

Just a happy little note...I took my real estate exam from the school again today. I needed an 85% to pass and I got an 85 1/2 % !!! God heard job's prayers

I now make arrangements to take the state exam and need a 75% to pass.

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H & I have been very relaxed with one another. Enjoying our M.

I wanted to talk to him about some non-R issues yesterday.

We had just looked at a WSJ article on how men and women relate differently. Basically it suggested women abbreviate long stories and prepare bullet points. Men should listen without interrupting and give advice if asked.

H & I tried this with one another. It went really well.

There is a high degree of contentment right now between the two of us.

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I didn't realize how much validation gets in your blood.

Yesterday, H came home with a new haircut. I asked him if he went to a new shop or the old one. I didn't ask when or where. Then I asked how he liked the haircut.

A few hours later he asked me if I liked it. I still hadn't said. Not intentionally; I'm just not used to blaring out my opinion any more. I said, I commented on it. He said, Yes, but you didn't say if YOU liked it or not.

I thought that was interesting. DB has taught me a whole new way of relating and thinking. Letting people be who they want to be. Letting me be who I want to be.

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Years ago, when H was starting replay, one night we were lying in bed whispering to one another. He told me that the IC had said that if he becomes who he wants to be, and I become who I want to be, and we still can have a R between the two of us that is better than us each being alone, then our M will be good.

At the time, those words scared me to death.

But I think it is happening right now to us.
And....I like it