So sorry to hear it lostinpgh. Just remember that nothing is over until you decide you are done. I'm not telling you to continue to wait for him, nor am I telling you to move on, only to realize that his statement that he's not coming back is just one more piece of data on a long journey and not the end of the road.

He didn't feel this way about you when you got married, so that proves that feelings can change!

Your best bet at this point is not to fight him regarding his decisions because it pits you as his adversary. Instead, go consult with an attorney, understand your rights, and go from there.

In terms of not knowing what to ask a lawyer, I would contact a divorce lawyer, explain your situation, and let them guide you. They will know what to ask.

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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015