Brighty-bright, I hate seeing you in such anguish. You are thinking WAY too much about your H and what you have done to him. First of all, YOU have not done this to him, he did this to himself and his family.
Second, your family means well and they say you must make these ultimatums only because they don't want to see you suffering and in such pain. They think this will stop the hurt. It will only be a different kind of hurt if you think about it. It also makes you question the decisions you have made for yourself. Really, really examine what it is that YOU want. I don't see you wanting or ready to cut the cord yet, but I could be wrong. You have a lot of healing to do within yourself. Give yourself time to heal. Be patient with yourself. Allow yourself to grieve and cry and feel that it is okay to do these things. It IS okay. You are definitely NOT a failure. This is one aspect of your life that is not going well at the moment, but it does not define you. You are a fabulous woman and you always have compassion for others on here, and, you give great advice.
We all want this to be over now and things to be less stressful. But that is not going to happen soon, for most of us.
I haven't been commenting on your thread because job was giving you excellent advice, but I do read your sitch whenever I come on here.
We all believe in you and are here to support you. Are you getting out and doing things just for you? Special for you?
Please believe in yourself and not what mlc-crazyville says right now.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
