My problem is my LL is physical touch, I crave it. I woke up to her rubbing my back the other night while she was watching shows. It was so nice.
I'm curious if you let her know how much you liked it that she was rubbing your back without being asked? And I don't just mean "thanks that was nice" but opening up and telling her how you feel- "it really makes me feel loved when you do something like that for me without me requesting it, it's important to me and I wanted you to know how much I appreciate it!" Because if you say "thanks!" when she passed you the salt and "thanks!" when she gives you a back rub, she may not realize how much more important that back rub was to your emotional well-being. I know this is a BIG problem of mine, I always thanked my wife for all things big and small but until I read 5LL I didn't realize that while I was being polite, I was NOT communicating my wants/ needs to her.
