Moved Back from Overseas to Figure This Out...

[S4tk]

With the kids, I meant that if I initiate a conversation with her about the OM and during that conversation a crisis is precipitated and she wants to leave with the kids, what are my rights as a father so she doesn't take them - for example to her sibling's house 300 miles away? Or fly them to another country?

Could I instead refuse to allow her to take them from the home? Is it better to let her take them if she insists, and then pursue some kind of legal solution?

I have read DR but I did so with the filter of "no OM" as I read it. So standing, even with this new information, means not talking about things right now? If so, what do I do about the lying and the coldness, and the daily posturing on her end as if this crisis is all about my failings and nothing about her?

You read "attack" into my last reply or two. I do need make sure that this is not the attitude I have about any talk she and I might have. Thank you for pointing this out.

I don't want to attack. What I do want (it was asked recently what I want) is enough information to know what is going on.