Wife wants Divorce, I do Not

[burning heart]

I believe the last call was a closure deal for her. And all about her. I text this today, for me...

You know how I feel. We both know you've tried telling me what I needed to do and I didn't hear, for awhile. Yes, now I'm ready to hear and I'm doing what I need to be doing. This has become more complicated than it should've ever been. Our old relationship is done, past is gone. It would be better than before. You have no idea all I've realized and the improvements that are happening. People can change and I will. No, you don't want that now. I will continue to do what I need to bc I've learned what was missing, what was wrong, and I will be better for it. You don't want to be a part of it. I won't be staying much longer. I will still become a better me. I have no choice but to improve. Do what you think you need to. I will do mine.

[MrBond]

You still do alot of mindreading since you're spinning all over the place.

"People can change and I will. No, you don't want that now."

This part was throwing the situation in her face and blaming her. Won't help you at all. Just because YOU are finally willing to do the work doesn't mean that she needs to believe you.

"I will continue to do what I need to bc I've learned what was missing, what was wrong, and I will be better for it."

That's fine.

"You don't want to be a part of it."

Very passive aggressive. You didn't want to be part of it first even when she asked you.

"I won't be staying much longer."

And what do you think your ultimatum is going to do? Won't help your sitch.

[burning heart]

Well......

[burning heart]

It felt like it helped me, for me.

[MrBond]

See this shows you haven't changed. You're still doing whatever you feel like doing despite how it might make her feel. You're just interested in making yourself feel better. Won't help your sitch though.

[burning heart]

Ok. I'm trying. I just don't know. This seems like a helpless situation. As far as our marriage goes......

[burning heart]

I'm lost. I'm crying uncontrollably. I feel like like sh+t

[MrBond]

All of the situations here seem hopeless. My W had an A with her boss 20 years older than her. It just takes time and knowing when not to shoot yourself in the foot.

[SM34]

Bh I'm sorry that I'm reading ANOTHER man's story of how his wife left him. But if there is one thing I've learned, its that there is always a reason and that it is never too late to work on that reason. Unless you decide its too late, or start shooting yourself in the foot as MrBond pointed out.

Stay the course. You have no idea how this will unfold, and that is a good thing. It means things could improve and you COULD have a better marriage.

Focus in yourself right now. You need to get back on your feet because no one can fight laying down...

Get up. Get up and fight!

[burning heart]

She won't talk. I thought that message would be enough for me to let go and both know it.