wife moved to.parents house last week scared

[paul19510]

its been 2 weeks today. its actually gone by faster than expected. I joined a class at the Y and I am continuing to make friends with parents on my son's ice hockey team.

It feels strange to look at the other couples and know that I am not one. But, honestly, they never met my W. She's been pulling away for a long time now. She never fully engaged in things with me and our S.

I am changing old patterns and times when I do things because it feels better not to hold on to the past.

W is seeming "darker" and angrier (my perception)with any encounter now....Not sure I get it. maybe the stress of this is causing it. I guess, I just keep smiling, be consistent and live my life.

Life at the house is getting more and more normal. I cook regular meals for me and the kids and we move through our days together. I didn't realize how dysfunctional it had become until we were apart. That's part of the gift I suppose.

Not sure she'll ever come back. don't know when to say I've tried enough. I don't want the person that left. I want to rebuild a new life. I guess that's what she must also struggle with during this time. Am I getting this?? Is she willing or able to come back and build a new life?

nothing has changed financially. there's no reason to do that this soon. I did call my mortgage person to inquire what it would look like to buy W out of the house if I need to. baby steps I guess.

I keep saying I don't understand why this is happening. My mom reminded me today that it doesn't make sense to me because I would not have made this decision, but, that I am not the person who made this decision and it makes sense to my W. So that's what it is....