Moved Back from Overseas to Figure This Out...

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Have you read DR? Standing as it's called her means just that, you stand for your M. You honor your vows, you let go of the spouse, work on yourself and sometimes the WAS sees the changes, reevaluates and wants to be married.

That often takes a lot of time. The WAS has to get over their hurt before they are even able to care if the LBS is making changes, let alone believe that the changes are lasting and a new a better R can happen.

So you are in control of whether or not you're done. I think you have a lot of really uncomfortable emotions right now and your response to that is attack.

You didn't answer these questions above and I think they're very important.

What do you mean by leaving with the kids? Without her knowledge?

What does having her leave without them mean?

I ask questions because sometimes others see holes, possible pitfalls, in the story that you don't see. It's not that you're writing isn't clear, it's just not always the whole story.