All the things that happened to your wife when she was younger, they would have happened regardless of anything you did or didn't do as a husband. The foundation of the crisis was laid long ago.
So you weren't the perfect spouse - who is? Your wife wasn't perfect either. Isn't that part of marriage, accepting the bad with good with our significant other?
You're a good man T. Don't beat yourself up over the past. You've learned from your mistakes. Try not to strive for perfection, just being the best you.
I think you have that covered
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."