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[reachingHigher]

Reaching, what were YOUR responses to the list you shared

It wasn't fancy, Ambiv. I heard these things many times.

I'm done
I'm never coming back
to these I just listened
Sell the house
I discussed this practically on more then one occasion. Pros and cons. We even talked about this in front of a L.
Find a place to live
Our kids are still living at home so I focused on the changes for them.
Get a job -- you don't seem in a hurry
He made me feel lazy. I went to school too. But I was so afraid. I showed him on paper what the expenses were and what I needed.
And the emotional things he said too.
mostly listened

This was a terrible time for him too. He didn't want to hurt his family. He was so confused. He had settled on a plan of action that he thought would make him happy (D). He had a lot more crisis to go through (not length of time but intensity) before he could accept that coming back was better than leaving.

This is an awful time for you, Ambiv. You've got so much good advice here tho. Cling to it. Do it.

My sitch was different. I didn't have money to pay for a L either. But I went to two and chose one and told H that if he wanted a D he would pay for it. So he did.

"25" posted a long time ago that some men hafta feel the squeeze in their wallets before they will come back to reality.

Try to follow the great advice here with these posters on the forum. Don't feel like YOU hafta process the D right here, right now. Don't let him do that to you.