Wonka, I agree one needs to take the context of the sitch and the parties involved.
My worldview has always been based on a strong sense of fairness, too.
I understand that my xh had a crisis. My compassion for him regarding that has been well documented. I have wished him nothing but happiness and peace. I forgave him a long time ago.
Would it be nice to hear an apology for all the destruction caused by his actions? Yes, it would. Do I need one in order to move forward, in order to heal, be whole, and continue to have compassion ? No, I dont.
I just wanted you to know how I felt regarding it in the hope that it offered another view.
I think that for you, this is a necessary thing in order to be able to continue to move forward.
I think that an honest, straightforward, sincere apology for whatever pain you had caused would be healing for both of you.
Your deeply felt love, respect and compassion for Ms. W is obvious.
Do what feels right. Do it with your wonderful heart. Do it without any expectation.
You can never go wrong if you act from a place of love and honor, W. And I know that is where it will come from.
Perhaps you feel it won't change anything for you if it came from your XH. One needs to take context of the sitch and the parties involved. Ms. Wonka's worldview has always been one that's based on a strong sense of fairness. That is the trait that makes me want to try to make amends for Ms. Wonka.
